The Art of Positive Parenting Requests: Making Positive Proposals

Can you think of a difficult or conflict-likely issue that you would like to bring up with your ex-partner? Consider writing this down. Remember try to explain why the issue or problem is important for your children. Now try making three positive proposals of your own that may solve this issue. Make sure to write these down also.

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Communicating with the Enemy: The Impact of Conflict and the Importance of Respectful Communication

At times communicating with your ex-partner may feel like navigating a battlefield, with open confrontation and each sides’ forces well-defined. Perhaps your situation is more similar to Guerrilla Warfare- filled with ambushes, sabotage and raids. You may feel that any communication is similar to walking into the line of fire, or as if you are tiptoeing carefully, afraid of footing a landmine. This type of communication is often poor, ineffective and destructive, and commonly driven by overwhelmingly intense and raw emotions.

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Hearing you; Hearing me: The Art of Positive Parenting Requests

Many separated couples have the best of intentions, but just seem to get stuck in conflict every time they try to communicate. It is very normal [and incredibly frustrating] to feel that your attempts to communicate with the other parent are met with hostility and anger. This can make simple parenting requests, like organising holidays and making weekend arrangements, or any changes to routine feel impossible.

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Turning the Flame Down on Anger

Although anger can be helpful, it generally leads to aggressive behaviour that often results in poor physical and psychological outcomes for all involved. Even if your anger is triggered by others it is up to YOU to react or not. If your anger is a pot of boiling water, you decide whether to turn the flame higher and boil over or turn the flame down and extinguish it.

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The Destructiveness of Anger

If you ever feel frustrated, irritated, annoyed, or even furious from time to time, you are not alone. Why? Because anger is a normal human emotion. In fact, some anger can be helpful. 

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“Just Make Two of Me” Tales From the Therapist's Couch

Listening to 8-year-old Ben, I was struck by his earnest efforts to solve the problem [as he saw it] of both his parents fighting about where he was going to live. He told me about loving both his mum and dad, but that each of them “loves me so much they just want me to stay longer with them”.

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How to Address Co-Parenting In a Soft & Effective Way

All relationships experience conflict. How two people who disagree about something handle conflict and hurt feelings is often a good indicator of the health or dysfunction in that relationship.  It’s essential to learn how to manage conflict and difference of opinions in a healthy way – here are some practical steps you can take to do just that.
 

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9 Ways to Make Transitioning Easier On Your Kids

Many parents worry about their kids when they transition between households. Children can become stressed and act out in ways that seem out of character. It can be hard to know if your child’s behaviour is a normal reaction or an indicator of a more serious psychological problem they are experiencing. Here are 9 ways you can make this transition easier on your child.

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